The Power of Self Management
Stop giving other people the power to control your happiness, your mind, and your life
For the past couple of weeks, I have been steadily reworking my social media. Facebook, if I am being honest. I wiped over 100 people off of my friend list that I didn’t personally have relationships with or that hadn’t interacted with me in the past few months. I unfollowed people and pages that were once important to me but were no longer aligned with this season of my life. I blocked a large pile of my own family that repeatedly had used things I shared with them to discuss my life and my public thoughts as fodder for their gossip sessions.
None of my actions were done out of anger - although some of the decision to do this was the result of recent hurt.
I am working this year to be 100% in control of my own happiness as well as being proactive about my own health - both physical and mental. There were elements of my feed that were destructive to my mission - so I cleared them out. There is so much power in being able to do that.
It has been the social media equvalent of putting my head in the sand.
It’s all rainbows and glitter over there again and honestly, it’s a bit of a breath of fresh air not because I care to be clueless or turn away from the less than stellar parts of life but simply because I wish to have some control over my consumption of the crap, and let’s face it, most of social media is crap as of late. (Although, I can’t get enough of the happy puppy posts and the baby animal fail videos!)
Life has been hard enough lately. I don’t want to have to deal with drama and ugliness when I am doom scrolling.
I have tried to leave completely. Several times. If I am being honest, I am working toward a slow departure. An ease in, if I must. My social media keeps me very easily connected to some distant family and friends that I really don’t want to give up right now, so I am still there. I have stopped sharing every aspect of my life though. I am not logged in 24/7 anymore. I am not tagging anyone anymore and I am rarely sharing photos other than the general things we have going here at our farm. I have gone from being a high level user to barely putting a tip toe in and ….I don’t miss a thing.
I am reading books now. Reguarly. I am spending my kick back relax time, sorting through the millions of substack articles that others have shared here and I am now officially a podcast addict. AND….my life is MUCH happier for it.
Today, I am spending our warm and sunny day in North Florida, sorting, cleaning and rearranging my glass cottage so that I can find some inspiration to creating beautiful art again. Tomorrow, I will most likely be back in the garden space dreaming up the spring garden. Both of these things bring me great joy, they allow me to move my body and more importantly, neither add to my stress level.
What are you doing today to cultivate your own health and happiness? Drop a comment. Let’s inspire each other.